Cynthia B.

Lately, I’ve come across quite a few TikToks and IG reels where men claim that women aren’t really single by choice . They say we’re lying. That no woman truly wants to be alone. That deep down, we’re just bitter or broken or waiting for the right man to rescue us. And listen—I laughed at first, but then I realized… this is exactly why this blog needs to exist. Because the truth is: more and more Black and Brown women are  single by choice. Not because we’ve given up on love. Not because...

Most men weren’t taught how to be emotionally safe—they were taught how to be “a man.” And being “a man” came with rules: don’t cry, don’t be soft, don’t ask for help, don’t show weakness, and definitely don’t act like a girl. It starts early. Research suggests that baby boys may actually cry more than baby girls, but by the time boys are toddlers, the messaging changes. They’re told to toughen up. They receive fewer cuddles, less nurturing, and less emotional room. Girls are consoled, while...

What do you do when everything around you is blooming, but your heart still feels like winter? April brings the energy of new beginnings—flowers stretch open, the sun lingers a little longer, and the air feels lighter. But if you’re healing from heartbreak or betrayal, this season can feel like a cruel contrast. While the world pushes forward with celebration and fresh starts, you may find yourself quietly grieving, caught between what was and what you hoped would be. Betrayal is a unique...